The demise of SelfDesign

As a result of a ridiculous legal opinion about the nature of trademarks, the Canadian SelfDesign Learning Foundation is eradicating SelfDesign from the United States, Ireland, the United Kingdom, Germany, China, Taiwan, New Zealand, Australia, and Brazil. SelfDesign will only continue to exist in British Columbia.

Of course, this is the opposite of what Brent Cameron intended when we worked together in 2011 to create the SelfDesign Graduate Institute. Sadly Brent is dead, and so is his aspiration of offering SelfDesign to children, youth, and fanilies all across the planet. 

And the young adults who have had the benefit of evolutionary parenting?

I have friends who really do see the world definitely not the same as me but who take the same approach as me—very interested, philosophical. We don’t get the same answers, and we don’t believe all the same things, but because of how we think, I can relate to them.

I feel like we’re in a really, really pivotal part of our existence. I think that the near-future is probably not going to look so wonderful. But the world’s strong, and humans are pretty capable, and I think eventually we’re going to mess it up enough where we finally realize what we have done and we’ll be able to come out of it. Not only we as humans, but this whole giant ball and all the creatures on it.

I would love to see a world in which people cease to see that there is a separation between us and the rest of the natural world. There’s so much knowledge—millions, billions of years of evolutionary knowledge in nature—that we can learn from nature, and we can fulfill many of our human needs in ways that are in harmony with nature and not working against nature.

I have a very definite sense, expanding, growing sense of my own spirituality, and I feel that there is much that I can learn from all the wisdom traditions, but that none of them holds all the truths for me.

Assisting in the blossoming of this flower that already knows what it looks like when it blooms.

By Robert Gilman


The greatest benefit of evolutionary parenting accrues to the persons who receive this gift of consciousness and love.                                                                                                                  

The second greatest gift goes to the parents, who can see the results of their efforts and whose lives are enriched by their continued connection with their child(ren).                     

            The ultimate gift is to humanity—and to all life on our planet Earth.

Each man described our evolutionary potential in the same way

            During the past two centuries, many spiritual teachers have talked and written about the nature of human beings. But only Inayat Khan, Rudolf Steiner, and Aurobindo Ghose have informed this discus­sion with detailed descriptions of both the process of human be­coming in childhood and youth and the desired functions of child raising and education to support each child’s and teen’s unfoldment. These three men lived at the same historic moment, yet as far we know, they never met. Each one came to essentially the same vision of human unfoldment, this common vision,through his own spiritual intuition.                                                   

Each man described our evolutionary potential in the same way: one key vehicle for the ongoing evolution of our species is the extent to which the parenting and education that young people receive allows and nurtures each child’s and teen’s unfoldment toward her or his potential. The more this happens, the more our species will evolve in consciousness.

What do parents who choose to act consciously from these insights say about their experiences of parenting?

There was very much of a sense that the child was a person to be respected as their own person and by no means a blank slate. And that our role as parents was to help with the coming out, the sort of nurturing forth of the potential that was there.

I wanted to give a very strong sense of rhythm to each young child, a sense of rhythm to each day. I wanted to bring a real consciousness to the care I gave them.

We were trying not to create forbidden fruits. We wanted her to learn to see through these kind of things—Barbie—not just to see it the way we do, but to make her own way through things, so she can see for herself how things are.

I’m very sensitive, but my daughter doesn’t have to feel guilty about my sensitivity. I told her that it’s just that she is this beautiful soul who is evolving, and she’s going through this stage right now.

A child comes into life with an evolved soul and has to be respected. When we think of the child as being younger than we are, it can be seen as simply an accident of time. In actuality the child may be more evolved than we are.

I felt that honesty with myself was the key to providing a model of integrity that I could show to them. Compassion for other people was something that I hoped to give them as a value that they could carry forward within their lives.

Why we should annihilate high school

More than 90% of adolescents are in schools mostly with people their own age for 3-4 years
Most are not all that interested in doing what the state demands of them—but most comply—research shows that from grades 1-12, humans in school become less creative and less interested in learning what the school demands
How much of teen culture is fabricated by corporations and sold to teens for consumption?
Locking youth in the high school “teen ghetto” demeans the youths’ integrity, lessens their creativity and interest in learning, and segregates them from the adult world. It’s wasteful and harmful. Youth should be engaged with adults so they can contribute their energy and creativity and learn about the adult world. 

The Fifth Insight

Thefifth insight is that the very best parenting that you can provide for your children will also make a significant contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.       

Many people now understand that we human beings need to evolve or we may well perish from our own genius run amuck. For an increasing number of people, this perception is the new myth of our increasingly globalized world. Evolution is not something happening out there, somewhere. We are an integral part of it. Our capacity for growth in consciousness is the leading edge of the evolutionary process on the planet right now.

A unique insight into conscious parenting

A unique insight into parenting as a lever for the evolution of human consciousness!


What parents say—


This book clears the lens and provides examples of how to model our parenting to a higher level of being…brilliant insights into how and what holistic parenting can look like today—Lisa McCarville


An exciting and inspirational read for any parent who wants to do their best to support their child holistically and fully…An eye-opening and heart opening book—Kate Hutchins


An amazing collection of case studies of families—Leahanne Hodges


Evolutionary Parenting shows that we can parent very effectively without being perfect ourselves. And as it turns out, what is best for our children also happens to be best for our own personal development—and the evolution of humans on earth—Chereen Dupuis

Entelechy defined

Jean Houston calls this quality the entelechy, the dynamic purpose that is coded within each person.

Entelechy is all about the possibilities encoded in each of us. For example it is the entelechy of an acorn to be an oak tree…It is possible to call upon the entelechy principle within us in such a way that it becomes personal, friendly, and even helpful. This entelechy principle can be expressed symbolically as a god or a guide. We feel its presence as…inspiration or motivation…

This is what I discovered

So what I discovered, and this is the core of my work, is that around 1910 Steiner and Aurobindo and Inayat Khan each articulated a very detailed map of human unfoldment between birth and age 21. And it’s essentially, I believe, I would argue, it’s the same map. They had different cultures, which Steiner had to deal with translators. With Inayat Khan he had to deal with the fact that he was a Sufi and he didn’t necessarily talk directly. But about this, he talked pretty directly. And then Aurobindo was great because he wrote in English. He was very clear, once you understood his system. He was a very clear writer.